Me and my boyfriend used to joke that we were in a long distance relationship as the remote location of where I live made the 3.4 mile journey quite difficult without a car. Well we’re now 6,134 miles apart and wishing we were never so stupid.
While he’ll only be gone until June, it’s proving very weird to accustom to a) not spending time with each other b) Skype calls and c) time zones. This morning I ate breakfast at the same time he had dinner.
To console myself, I’ve created a list of films about long distance couples – also known as ‘couples who have it way worse than us’.
Like Crazy (2011)
I’m starting this compilation off with the Drake Doremus directed indie favourite, starring Felicity Jones, Anton Yelchin and Jennifer Lawrence. The film follows Anna, a British student, and Jacob, an American one who meet and fall and love whilst studying at a Los Angeles college. After overstaying her visa, Anna is banned from the U.S & the two try to make it work. The acting is brilliant, the cinematography gorgeous and the story heartachingly distressing. It’s one of those films that leaves you with a really sad sort of joy.
The Notebook (2004)
Is there anyone that doesn’t know about the notebook? Starring recently Oscar nominated Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling in his big breakout role as Allie and Noah, a pair who fall in love in their teens and then spend their adult life fighting to be together after being torn apart by work, war, and family disapproval. The story is told to an old woman by a man from a notebook – and it has the most heart wrenching ending.
Going the Distance (2010)
This is more of a fun, specific long distance relationship film. Basically Drew Barrymore and Justin Long meet and fall in love in New York only a few weeks before she moves to San Francisco to finish her degree. They agree to try and make long distance work. The trailer for this advertises it as a laugh a minute comedy, and whilst there are funny moments this film really does have a lot of heart.
Based on the novel by Ian McEwan, Atonement follows the lives of young lovers Cecilia and Robbie, played by Keira Knightley and James McAvoy. When the couple are torn apart by a lie told by Cecilia’s jealous younger sister, Briony (who’s played by a baby Saoirse Ronan), all three of them must deal with the repercussions. Robbie is sent to prison for the accusation, but when his path crosses with Cecilia’s during World War Two the pair get the chance to be together again. It’s so gorgeous and that iconic green dress is stunning.
The Time Traveler’s Wife (2009)
This one I think is maybe the saddest? Rachel McAdams again as one half of a couple who don’t get to be with each other, as she plays the wife to a time traveler (clue’s in the title). Eric Bana plays Henry, the husband, who suffers from a genetic disorder that causes him to travel through time at any given moment. Based on the original book by Audrey Niffenegger (which is STUNNING by the way), this film is so, so beautiful and so, so sad.
Brokeback Mountain (2005)
I will forever standby that this is the most heartbreaking film of all time. More heartbreaking than The Notebook, more than Marley & Me, more than E.T -which is really saying something. This Oscar winning film is the powerful and honest story of two young men (played by Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger) who meet in the summer of 1963 sheepherding in the high grasslands of Wyoming and form an unorthodox yet life-long relationship in a time where gay was not okay. It’s the most beautiful story and honestly rips your guts out right in front of you. Watch it now.
Does leaving your new fiancé in the middle of the night because you’re dying from terminal cancer to then be given superpowers that leave you horribly scarred and too ashamed to reveal yourself to said fiancé only to be reunited when saving her life from the evil villain who gave you powers/scars two years later count as long distance? Probably not. But I’m including it for this quote:
“Vanessa’s already working on plan’s A, B, through Z. Me? I’m trying to memorize the details of her face, like it’s the first time I’m seeing it… or the last.”
I also want to use this post to talk about the project SHINLIART – a photo from which I featured at the top of this post. Danbi Shin and Seok Li are a long distance couple, with Shin based in New York and Li in Seoul, who create powerful images of their everyday lives are that pieced together to make one image. The photographs are taken simultaneously 6869 miles apart with a 14 hour time difference, and are uploaded to their instagram. It’s such a beautiful project that has so much effort gone into it, and really demonstrates the commitment between the pair.
You can watch a really gorgeous video created by the pair here.